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Upcoming Events to Catch the Feels:

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Los Angeles, CA

Tue, Jun 30 • 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

The Feels LA ed 23

Los Angeles, CA

Tuesday, June 30th 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

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The Feels LA ed 25

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Los Angeles, CA

Wed, Jul 29 • 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

The Feels LA ed 25

Los Angeles, CA

Wednesday, July 29th 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

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The Feels LA ed 26

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Los Angeles, CA

Fri, Aug 28 • 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

The Feels LA ed 26

Los Angeles, CA

Friday, August 28th 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

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So what’s the Feels all about?

‘The Feels’ started as a live event back in 2022.
a room full of singles who were willing to try something different - to unlock tools for better relating, experience a more thoughtful way of dating, and connect with a values-aligned community.

what we discovered in that room kept leading us somewhere deeper. We’ve built a movement, based on need + feedback; we now run coaching + matchmaking programs, retreats, online education, whatsapp communities of thousands of people.

This work believes that better relating is possible – and we’ve found a group of people who are ready to put that into action.

If you’re reading this - perhaps you are too ;)
two people engaged in a somatic experience sitting back to back

Events

'The feels', our flagship offering, is a 3-hour facilitated evening for singles built around somatic awareness, mindfulness, and present moment connection.

Matchmaking + Coaching

a personal coaching journey through your patterns in love, with the option to be introduced to people who're equally interested in high fidelity relating.

Online Education

tools and frameworks for better relating, available whenever you're ready to go deeper.

Singles Retreats

an immersive weekend that'll put you into direct practice with fellow attendees, and leave you with a group of fellow travellers who are very likely to remain in your life for a long time to come.

the feels format was developed in partnership with Columbia University's Spirit Mind Body Institute and is grounded in four bodies of research: somatic awareness, mindfulness, nonviolent communication, and group relations theory. across all of it runs a single belief: when you're grounded in your body and present in the moment, that's when real connection becomes possible. if you're curious about the scholars, the research, and the thinking that shaped all of this, download our White Paper to learn more.
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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING

“I’ve avoided the world of dating my whole adult life, but am ready to change that. This was my first real attempt. It was a great way to jump right in.

Past Participant, NYC

“I like the way in which there were deeper conversations other than the standard surface level questions. It made people think of not only how to look inside themselves but also how to listen and be attentive in the moment.

Past Participant, NYC

“Intimate, expansive, deep.”

Past Participant, NYC

“Even though I didn’t feel like I met someone I could contact after the event to potentially date, I left feeling hopeful that there are people out there who are willing to be fully engaged and invested in a partner. That was refreshing after so many disappointing interactions in my recent past.”

Past Participant, NYC

“The prompts felt very deep and personal. I was surprised to find myself opening up so quickly.”

Past Participant, NYC

“The flow of events was truly wonderful. The whole evening felt safe, fun & like a creative way to meet other people.”

Past Participant, NYC

“It was a very cool experience and interesting concept, validating the uncomfortable and knowing other people are there for similar reasons.”

Past Participant, NYC

Meet Allie + Beth

Allie Hoffman

Allie Hoffman
Allie Hoffman, MArts, Psychology

For nearly 20 years, Allie's work has focused on community building. Media she has produced or directed has been viewed more than 150 million times, changed laws in 33 different states, and was featured in publications like the New York Times, Guardian, Teen Vogue on a regular basis. Her past clients include Alicia Keys, Charlize Theron, Pharrell Williams, Caitlyn Jenner, and Jose Andres, and more. In 2021, Allie transitioned from building digital --> IRL movements, and began focusing exclusively at the intersection of experience design, community and inner work. Her flagship offering, 'the feels', was launched in Aug 2022 and since then has hosted thousands of people across 4 cities. Allie holds an undergraduate degree in political science from the University of Southern California and a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from Columbia University.

Laura Adery

Laura Adery
Laura Adery, PhD

Laura Adery, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist providing trauma-informed facilitation, education and evidence-based care, with a focus on supporting people in cultivating self-alignment, honest expression and meaningful connection. She brings a grounded, emotionally attuned presence to the spaces she holds, creating inclusive containers that invite vulnerability with clarity, safety, and self-trust. As Director of Clinical Services and Training for an early-intervention program within the UCLA academic medical setting, she leads clinical care and training initiatives with a sensitivity to the smallest signals that reflect shifts in identity, relational safety, and meaningful human connection. Her work integrates deep psychological insight with practical relational skills, supporting individuals and groups in navigating intimacy, emotional resilience, and change as it unfolds. Grounded in the science of neuroplasticity, she holds a deep belief that the skills of better relating are buildable- and that when people feel safe enough to be real, connection follows. Laura is a queer woman, surfer, musician and nature lover who trusts that embodiment, presence and play are essential companions to depth and growth.

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