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Upcoming Events to Catch the Feels:

The Feels SF ed 18

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San Francisco, CA

Wed, Jun 10 • 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

The Feels SF ed 18

San Francisco, CA

Wednesday, June 10th 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

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The Feels SF ed 19

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San Francisco, CA

Fri, Jul 10 • 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

The Feels SF ed 19

San Francisco, CA

Friday, July 10th 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

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The Feels SF ed 20

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San Francisco, CA

Wed, Aug 12 • 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

The Feels SF ed 20

San Francisco, CA

Wednesday, August 12th 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM

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The Feels WKNDR SF 2026

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San Francisco, CA

Sat, Aug 15 • 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM

The Feels WKNDR SF 2026

San Francisco, CA

Saturday, August 15th 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM

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So what’s the Feels all about?

‘The Feels’ started as a live event back in 2022.
a room full of singles who were willing to try something different - to unlock tools for better relating, experience a more thoughtful way of dating, and connect with a values-aligned community.

what we discovered in that room kept leading us somewhere deeper. We’ve built a movement, based on need + feedback; we now run coaching + matchmaking programs, retreats, online education, whatsapp communities of thousands of people.

This work believes that better relating is possible – and we’ve found a group of people who are ready to put that into action.

If you’re reading this - perhaps you are too ;)
two people engaged in a somatic experience sitting back to back

Events

'The feels', our flagship offering, is a 3-hour facilitated evening for singles built around somatic awareness, mindfulness, and present moment connection.

Matchmaking + Coaching

a personal coaching journey through your patterns in love, with the option to be introduced to people who're equally interested in high fidelity relating.

Online Education

tools and frameworks for better relating, available whenever you're ready to go deeper.

Singles Retreats

an immersive weekend that'll put you into direct practice with fellow attendees, and leave you with a group of fellow travellers who are very likely to remain in your life for a long time to come.

the feels format was developed in partnership with Columbia University's Spirit Mind Body Institute and is grounded in four bodies of research: somatic awareness, mindfulness, nonviolent communication, and group relations theory. across all of it runs a single belief: when you're grounded in your body and present in the moment, that's when real connection becomes possible. if you're curious about the scholars, the research, and the thinking that shaped all of this, download our White Paper to learn more.
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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING

“I’ve avoided the world of dating my whole adult life, but am ready to change that. This was my first real attempt. It was a great way to jump right in.

Past Participant, NYC

“I like the way in which there were deeper conversations other than the standard surface level questions. It made people think of not only how to look inside themselves but also how to listen and be attentive in the moment.

Past Participant, NYC

“Intimate, expansive, deep.”

Past Participant, NYC

“Even though I didn’t feel like I met someone I could contact after the event to potentially date, I left feeling hopeful that there are people out there who are willing to be fully engaged and invested in a partner. That was refreshing after so many disappointing interactions in my recent past.”

Past Participant, NYC

“The prompts felt very deep and personal. I was surprised to find myself opening up so quickly.”

Past Participant, NYC

“The flow of events was truly wonderful. The whole evening felt safe, fun & like a creative way to meet other people.”

Past Participant, NYC

“It was a very cool experience and interesting concept, validating the uncomfortable and knowing other people are there for similar reasons.”

Past Participant, NYC

Meet Allie + Beth

Allie Hoffman

Allie Hoffman
Allie Hoffman, MArts, Psychology

For nearly 20 years, Allie's work has focused on community building. Media she has produced or directed has been viewed more than 150 million times, changed laws in 33 different states, and was featured in publications like the New York Times, Guardian, Teen Vogue on a regular basis. Her past clients include Alicia Keys, Charlize Theron, Pharrell Williams, Caitlyn Jenner, and Jose Andres, and more. In 2021, Allie transitioned from building digital --> IRL movements, and began focusing exclusively at the intersection of experience design, community and inner work. Her flagship offering, 'the feels', was launched in Aug 2022 and since then has hosted thousands of people across 4 cities. Allie holds an undergraduate degree in political science from the University of Southern California and a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from Columbia University.

Beth Foley

Beth Foley
Beth Foley,

Beth is a trauma-informed somatic educator, therapist, and facilitator passionate about guiding humans toward feeling more at home in their bodies and more connected in their relationships. She holds deep reverence for emergent experience— the magic that happens when we show up fully, in real time. Her work invites participants into deeper embodiment, honest relating, and authentic discovery. With an extensive background in business strategy and consulting, she skillfully bridges structure and intuition, creating containers that honor both process and transformation. Her entrepreneurial spirit led her to cofound Resilient Recovery, an innovative program integrating somatic nervous system work with addiction recovery to address root causes and center trauma-informed practice. When she's not immersed in her work, you'll likely find her dancing, hiking, and exploring the landscapes of Northern California and beyond.

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