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pair'd

a deeply personal container for the work of becoming who you want to be in love.

most dating advice skips the most important part: you.

we don't believe you need more tips. we believe you need a guide, a mirror, and a practice. someone who's alongside you — not just in the sessions, but in the actual moments of your dating life. that's what we built this for.

this is a journey,
not a service.

three phases, designed to move you from seeing yourself more clearly — to actually showing up differently.

1

foundational work

who you are + how you got here

we start at the root. your origin story and the imprints it left. your relational history — the archetypes, the Imago, the patterns you keep repeating. your wounds and shadows, and specifically where they show up in love. we name them, so they stop running the show. from there, we set intentions and clarify coaching goals for our work together: what are you actually trying to rewire? what risks are you ready to take?

up to 2 sessions / month access to MD 101 async text + voice note w your coach goal setting
2

the dating lab

we're with you as you go

this is where you get to practice — in the sessions, and between them. you're dating; we're right there with you. processing what came up after a date. noticing when the old patterns surface. naming what your body is telling you that your mind is trying to talk you out of. this is where theory becomes lived experience.

up to 2 sessions / month structured 1:1 coaching async text + voice note w your coach
3

integration

bringing it all forward

what's been seen can't be unseen. this phase is about locking in what's changed — in how you show up, what you tolerate, what you ask for, what you trust. integration isn't the end of the work; it's the beginning of a new baseline. you leave this phase different than you arrived.

up to 2 sessions / month structured 1:1 coaching async text + voice note w your coach
Coaching Only

the coaching journey

for those ready to do the inner work. matchmaking can be added at any time.

3 months · phase I

In Practice

$650/mo
$1,950 total · 6 sessions
  • Foundational work: origin story, Imago, archetypes
  • Pattern + shadow identification
  • Goal-setting + dating intentions
  • Up to 2 sessions/month (6 total)
  • Async text + voice note w your coach
  • Access to MD 101
Get Started
6 months · phases I + II

All In

$575/mo
$3,450 total · 12 sessions
  • Full Phase I foundational work
  • Phase II: coached as you actually date
  • Real-time pattern work between sessions
  • Up to 2 sessions/month (12 total)
  • Async text + voice note w your coach
  • Access to MD 101
Get Started
9 months · phases I – III

The Deepest Dive

$500/mo
$4,500 total · 18 sessions
  • Complete three-phase arc
  • Foundational work through full integration
  • Up to 2 sessions/month (18 total)
  • Async text + voice note w your coach
  • Access to MD 101
  • One reset session if things plateau
Get Started

pay in full and save 5%. all plans are a committed investment — monthly billing is a payment plan, not a subscription. read our commitment policy ↓

Coaching + Matchmaking

the people you've been looking for
are already in our community — want to meet them?

pair'd is our high-fidelity matchmaking program — built on the same psycho-spiritual framework as the coaching. when you combine the two, you're not just working on yourself in theory. you have actual matches, real dates, and a coach in your corner through all of it. so the inner work and the outer practice are in sync.

allie does all the pairing. she's thoughtful, she takes her time, and she only introduces you to someone when there's real potential — not just a checklist match. only a yes from you counts toward your matches.

if we don't feel confident we can introduce you to at least 3 great matches, we'll return your investment. no questions.

matchmaking is currently available in NYC, LA, and SF only.

3 months · phase I

Pair'd: In Practice

$1,600/mo
$4,750 total
  • 3 curated matches via Pair'd
  • Onboarding call with Allie
  • Phase I foundational coaching
  • Up to 2 sessions/month (6 total)
  • Async text + voice note w your coach
  • Access to MD 101
Get Started
6 months · phases I + II

Pair'd: All In

$1,250/mo
$7,500 total
  • 3–5 curated matches via Pair'd
  • Onboarding call with Allie
  • Phases I + II — coached as you date
  • Up to 2 sessions/month (12 total)
  • Async text + voice note w your coach
  • Access to MD 101
Get Started
9 months · phases I – III

Pair'd: The Deepest Dive

$1,085/mo
$9,750 total
  • 5+ curated matches via Pair'd
  • Onboarding call with Allie
  • Complete 3-phase arc
  • Up to 2 sessions/month (18 total)
  • Async text + voice note w your coach
  • Access to MD 101
  • One reset session if things plateau
Get Started

pay in full and save 5%. monthly billing is a committed payment plan — see our commitment policy below.

Our Commitment Policy

we ask for your full presence.

when you enroll, you're committing to the full program — 3, 6, or 9 months. monthly billing is a payment plan, not a subscription you can cancel. this isn't a technicality; it's a reflection of what the work actually requires. transformation doesn't happen in a month, and we've designed these programs accordingly.

your coach shows up fully for you from day one. we ask the same in return.

the compassionate carve-out.

we're humans, and so are you. if something significant and unforeseen happens in your life — a serious health event, a major loss, an unexpected crisis — we will always find a way to work with you. we can pause your program, restructure your payments, or find another arrangement that honors both your situation and the container we've built together. reach out. we'll figure it out.

what people are saying

"Feels Pair'd felt genuinely thoughtful. It wasn't a 'check the boxes' situation like I'd experienced with other matchmakers; the matches were aligned to where I am."
— C
"Absolutely it was worth it. I got the outcome I wanted — a unique, interesting learning opportunity. I really liked the coaching aspect."
— C
"The dynamics were higher fidelity for sure… it was the best IRL dating experience I've had."
— A

a few things people ask

do i have to do coaching + matchmaking together?

no — you can do coaching-only, or you can do coaching + matchmaking together as a bundle. however, matchmaking isn't available on its own. the two work best in sync, and we've designed the programs that way. if you're not sure which is right for you, book a call and we'll help you figure it out.

how does the commitment contract work?

when you enroll, you sign an agreement for the full program term. monthly billing is a payment installment — not a cancellable subscription. this protects you (and us) — it keeps you in the work through the moments when it gets hard, which is usually exactly when the most important shifts happen. we do have a compassionate carve-out policy for genuine hardship situations.

what if you can't find matches for me?

if we genuinely can't find strong matches, we'll return your matchmaking investment. we only move forward when we're confident we've got something real for you.

who are the coaches?

your coach is a Feels Guide — someone trained in our methodology, which draws from Imago theory, somatic work, shadow work, and attachment science. you'll be introduced to your guide at the start of the program.

is matchmaking available where i live?

pair'd is currently available in NYC, LA, and SF. if you're outside those cities, coaching-only is available regardless of where you are.

how do i get started?

hit ‘get started’ to sign up. once payment is received and your agreement is signed, we'll send you a short form to get to know you followed by an intake call to make sure we're the right fit.

ready to
feel more?

This program is for the brave, and the ready ones.

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